I have been wanting to write about this for a while, but Robin Williams' death has motivated me to actually do the post.
Also, I have gone through my own experiences with grieving, the closest of which was my mom's death.
So, here are some of my suggestions.
- Don't force the person to do anything they don't want to do. They are grieving, and may not want to go out, or talk for a while. If you tell them to go out, or do something, while they are still grieving, they may shrink away from you, or the situation.
- Do NOT tell the person to "get over it." They never will. This is probably the WORST thing you can say to someone who is grieving. Never, ever say it. EVER.
- Do invite them to something, even if you know/think they'll decline. It'll make them feel like you care about them, and that they were being thought of.
- Do not force them to talk about what they are going through. But do listen, truly listen, for when/if they do want to talk about it. They just need someone to be there for them.
- Don't tell them you know what they are going through. The grieving process is different for each person, so you don't know how they are going through it. You may know what it is like to lose someone, but you do not know their pain.
- Give them hugs as often as you can. Hugs seriously help.
- Help them with everyday things, like chores, shopping, cleaning, etc. If they are willing to let you take them up/help them with these things. You do not need to force yourself on them, but do let them know you are willing to help out however you can.
- Give them some space if necessary. Sometimes it is best to give the person who is grieving some space. They are going through a very tough time, and need to adjust to a new "normal." They may not want to be around people, so don't overstep it.
- Call, email, or text them, to let them know you are thinking of them. Getting an encouraging email, call, or text also helps a lot, when going through the grieving process.
