I will start with the letter to my younger/past self.
Dear Younger Me,
First off, don't hate wearing glasses. They are NOT that bad!!! Wearing glasses does not hurt, and they are pretty stylish too! Also, pretending to forget bringing your glasses to school in second grade was not the wisest move.
Now, about homework. It woulde have been wiser to get it done asap, instead of putting it off, or not doing it at all. Asking for, and getting help, is not a bad thing, either. I know you were/are capable of doing well in school; you just underestimated your capabilities and strengths. You are a smart, capable, beautiful person, and I wish you had known that back then.
In relation to homework and school, it wouldn't have hurt to join a club or two, to make school more enjoyable (and likeable!!). School doesn't have to be a bad thing, if you just put in the effort to do your work, participate in class, and just do your part. Clubs can help you come out of your shell, find yourself, and do better in school.
Clubs and after-school activities are also a great way to make friends, because they share a common interest with you.
Next, about journaling/writing. It's great that you journaled in elementary school, but I wish you had kept it up through junior high and high school. And beyond. It would help with figuring out everything that was going through your mind, and everything that was going on in life. Writing things out helps you understand things better.
You don't have to keep everything bottled inside, and have it explode from you later. That is not healthy. Talking about it, even writing about it, helps make sense of things, and you will feel so much better afterwards.
Another thing I would like to tell you is to please believe in yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to, if you just believe you can. Being afraid to do something doesn't mean you can't do it. That just means it is worth doing. Especially if it is something you love, something you have a passion for.
You do not have to doubt your self-worth, or your beauty. You are an amazing woman, and I wish you could see that. Don't ever let anyone dictate what your self-worth is, nor your beauty. You have every right to feel confident about being yourself, to love yourself, to just be.
No one should make you feel inferior, like you don't belong here, like you aren't worthy of a life worthy of living.
People who make you feel bad about yourself, are crying out for help, and they need to be listened to. They feel like if they make someone feel worse than they do, they aren't as bad off as others. Their actions reflect who they are, how they are feeling, not of who you are.
Also, being that painfully shy is not doing you any good. It doesn't hurt to speak up/out when you want/need to say something. Being shy isn't a bad thing, but being severly shy like this keeps you from reaching your potential, from doing the things you want and need to, and from people getting to know you. It doesn't hurt to get out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
People are going to be judgmental about anyone who is different, no matter what you do or who you are, so don't be afraid to be yourself. Being yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself. Conforming to who and what others think you should be is not the key to being your true self, to being happy.
Do not change to make others happy. If you want to change, change for yourself, not because others say you should. If you change who you are, because someone wants you to be something other than who and what you are, than you will be very unhappy.
Do what makes YOU happy, what makes you, you. You are beautiful the way you are, no matter what other people may think. What others think about you is a reflection of them, not of you.
Now, about homework. It woulde have been wiser to get it done asap, instead of putting it off, or not doing it at all. Asking for, and getting help, is not a bad thing, either. I know you were/are capable of doing well in school; you just underestimated your capabilities and strengths. You are a smart, capable, beautiful person, and I wish you had known that back then.
In relation to homework and school, it wouldn't have hurt to join a club or two, to make school more enjoyable (and likeable!!). School doesn't have to be a bad thing, if you just put in the effort to do your work, participate in class, and just do your part. Clubs can help you come out of your shell, find yourself, and do better in school.
Clubs and after-school activities are also a great way to make friends, because they share a common interest with you.
Next, about journaling/writing. It's great that you journaled in elementary school, but I wish you had kept it up through junior high and high school. And beyond. It would help with figuring out everything that was going through your mind, and everything that was going on in life. Writing things out helps you understand things better.
You don't have to keep everything bottled inside, and have it explode from you later. That is not healthy. Talking about it, even writing about it, helps make sense of things, and you will feel so much better afterwards.
Another thing I would like to tell you is to please believe in yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to, if you just believe you can. Being afraid to do something doesn't mean you can't do it. That just means it is worth doing. Especially if it is something you love, something you have a passion for.
You do not have to doubt your self-worth, or your beauty. You are an amazing woman, and I wish you could see that. Don't ever let anyone dictate what your self-worth is, nor your beauty. You have every right to feel confident about being yourself, to love yourself, to just be.
No one should make you feel inferior, like you don't belong here, like you aren't worthy of a life worthy of living.
People who make you feel bad about yourself, are crying out for help, and they need to be listened to. They feel like if they make someone feel worse than they do, they aren't as bad off as others. Their actions reflect who they are, how they are feeling, not of who you are.
Also, being that painfully shy is not doing you any good. It doesn't hurt to speak up/out when you want/need to say something. Being shy isn't a bad thing, but being severly shy like this keeps you from reaching your potential, from doing the things you want and need to, and from people getting to know you. It doesn't hurt to get out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
People are going to be judgmental about anyone who is different, no matter what you do or who you are, so don't be afraid to be yourself. Being yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself. Conforming to who and what others think you should be is not the key to being your true self, to being happy.
Do not change to make others happy. If you want to change, change for yourself, not because others say you should. If you change who you are, because someone wants you to be something other than who and what you are, than you will be very unhappy.
Do what makes YOU happy, what makes you, you. You are beautiful the way you are, no matter what other people may think. What others think about you is a reflection of them, not of you.
Love,
Present Me
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